Why Not to Build a Village
What it takes to do something visionary
Some years ago there was a brilliant guy who commit suicide. He was building a revolutionary, low cost sustainable housing development in the UK. My friend had bought into it, and one day we were hanging out in his future apartment that was almost finished, imagining life together - as I would also be moving in.
Yet that future never arrived because the developer killed himself. He realised he could not fulfil his promises. He had underestimated the costs involved, and the pressure became too much. Rather than face disappointing the expectations of others, he ended his life.
Most people in their lifetimes experience pressure and overwhelm. Yet, when building a village - of any kind, the pressure from all sides can seem insurmountable.
There is pressure coming from lawyers, from local authorities, from lenders, from every team lead and advisor, from the sheer insurmountable tasks and complexity of such an endeavour, and last but not least from community members. And unfortunately all those voices conflict with one another and collide in only one place: those holding everything together.
Every opinion and expectation is a form of pressure. And each person can only perceive their own position. Yet the person holding everything together is receiving all inputs simultaneously, and is expected to respond graciously every time, with an integrated solution, and endless patience.
It’s a relentless melting pot that stands little chance of sustainability.
Throughout my community exploration years I’ve seen repeated patterns of founders being truly worn down by the journey. Regardless of their approach and their personality, there is a kind of heartbreak that can be witnessed.
Feeling the weight of the responsibility, often being misjudged and projected upon, often feeling unsupported or undervalued, often drained from having the same conversations over and over again.
Many ecovillage founders hide in their homes for peace because every person they encounter when they leave their house wants something from them; some advice, to ask questions, to test an idea, to complain about something, or ask for something.
Some founders - including some of the sweetest, kindest people I’ve ever known - gave up their involvement in their community because those who never had the power of being a founder of something were always hungry for it, always resentful and ready to tear things down, and so they just handed it over to them, because for them it was never about power.
A friend of mine, a well known and loved celebrity, tried to build a completely egalitarian community some years ago. He believed in total equality after living with tribes from around the world and experiencing one of the only few tribes left on this planet in which absolutely zero power dynamics exist.
He had the money to buy a beautiful property and land and was willing to completely hand over all ownership of it - as well as all his personal money and belongings - into a community reality where everyone shares everything regardless of what they have.
Despite how dearly loved he is, no one wanted to join him. His rich friends weren’t interested. His poor friends also weren’t interested - they were still trying to build something, own something, become something. Their sense of self-identity and worth were still too calibrated to a system of self-earned status and ownership to let that go.
He tried and tried, and it broke his heart for some years. Eventually he let the dream go and moved on.
Why is it like this?
It seems that no matter the approach a founder takes, he or she meets unfathomable challenge and resistance on the journey. Why is this so?
The answer is clear and resounding, and circles back to the need for such projects in the first place. We live in a sick society. The imbalances have worked deeply into every system - including our consciousness and neural wiring.
We know the system is completely poisoned and designed to hijack our life force energy. That is increasingly visible, now in the full light of day; no one can deny it anymore. What is still relatively in the shadows is the extent to which human consciousness and nervous systems have been already hijacked - and need true healing (what Neos is precisely in service to).
When someone dares to step forward, summoning all the empowerment and faith they can find within their hearts, and risk themselves to undertake something magnificent, something that will really move the needle in the wider picture of the world, there are some people that will recognise the true meaning of this undertaking and run towards that person to support it. Yet there are many, others, who will bring a counter force of resistance.
Resistance shows up in multiple ways, both overtly and covertly, and it always stems from lack.
But the question above isn’t the only question to ask.
What about the responsibility and shadow of the founders? In all of the above cases, the founders have been genuinely beautiful souls (shadows of course still exist) - but that’s not to say there aren’t other founders with more pronounced demons.
The key question is what drives a person to found a village in the first place? Having a vision is one thing. Wanting to correct something in society and make a stand for something better is shared by many. But to actually set out to do it within the limitations of our 3D world is rare.
It takes a certain kind of consciousness, that whilst having no idea what is coming, is willing to endure it. They are willing to take the risk. Willing to face the pressure and be tested to the edge - because it’s the higher path than means more than any alternative life. Most people do not make this choice and for this reason there is a very real gap of understanding which makes it a rather lonely path even when surrounded by people.
In my opinion, while there is every reason to not build a village - or for that matter build or start anything truly significant - there are much better reasons for why more people should, and I believe, will, when their capacity for consciousness increases - because it’s what we’re all truly here for.
We were never here for comfort or security. These things are illusions that will destroy us just as easily. So whether it’s climbing Mount Everest, starting a not-for-profit in Africa, or building a visionary village, the journey can feel like it’s killing you, and sometimes it does. But it is worth it, when something is being born - in you, in others, or in the world, that irrecoverably changes life for the better.
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Neos Experience - 9-13 September - Early bird rate til 31 July!
Our last retreat was sold out, and most participants wanted to stay longer, so we have extended the Neos Experience now to four nights, and offer an Early Bird rate to book your place before the end of July!
These multi-day experiences are designed to bring a balance of transformation, deep connection with land and people, inspiration and insight, whilst providing spaciousness to feel, relax and allow emergence to unfold.
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Neos Life experience has turned out to be a sacred portal to my new way of being. Before coming here I had no clue what my soul is up to. I just followed its calling. During these days I had so many incredible and healing teachings on-the-go my mind could hardly grasp. Every living being I met here was meant to be met. I’m grateful beyond words. And now I am deeply aware of - when you let go, you get everything beyond your imagination. - Inka
As always, sending our love and appreciation to following and supporting our journey and this project,
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